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losing weight after birth

Losing weight after birth

 

Losing weight after birth and getting back to “jeans of my dreams” is an ambitious goal of almost every mom. There are these lucky slender amazons who had never gained weight in the first place, but this post is not about them. The author of this blog is a mom who bargains with every gram of her body, trying to scare them (the grams) away in the most natural way. So, here are three proven techniques for how to get rid of excessive self. These methods do work only if you have the full intention for them to work. No magic potions, no dried bats and no spells. Only work with one’s consciousness and some physical activity for dessert.

Set timed goals and objectives

Just “keeping it in mind” is not enough. A mom needs to have specific goals in terms of dates and numbers. Then, she should try to stick to the goal while keeping with her convenient lifestyle as much as possible. Losing weight after birth is a challenging task that requires some form of compensation for every small achievement. For example, every time my weight goes 0,5 kilo down and does not come back on the following it’s a good reason to celebrate another milestone. For example, I buy myself a piece of cloth that now fits me well: it creates an enormous incentive to keep on the weight-losing track.

I say no quick diets, yes to sensibility

Some people can get very serious about it. Can I live like that? Not yet. But I’m getting there.

I never touch sugar, cheese, bread…
I only like what I’m allowed to like. I’m beyond temptation. There is no weakness. When I see tons of food in the studio, for us and for everybody, for me it’s as if this stuff was made out of plastic. The idea doesn’t even enter my mind that a human being could put that into their mouth. I’m like the animals in the forest. They don’t touch what they cannot eat.”
Karl Lagerfeld

Source: http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/dieting

Most of the girls have more or less tried diets in their teen-hood and I am no exception. I still remember these depressive hungry evenings when all my thoughts were concentrated around a loaf of bread. From today’s life position I see it as the most pathetic and the least effective way to lose weight. Keeping one hungry only means that she will compencate it to herself later and probably, will gain the same weight she lost in an unfair battle.

Sensibility and harmony in everything is the gift that comes with age, experience and awareness. It does not only refer to weight, but embrasses every life sphere. However, since right now the painful (cross line) topic is weight loss I will concentrate on that.

So, what does it mean, a sensible diet?

That means I am not rejecting but replacing. “Yummy” things go away and other things come instead. It sounds simple but it is not. How does a mom convince herself, that this very piece of amazing, shiny chocolate cake and this little cup of coffee next to it are not on today’s menu? How do I keep my hands away from favorite things that bring me from size S to S++?

Once the favorite things stop being my number one choice. Forever.

It is achieved by inner conversation and persuasion, by understanding and loving oneself. A bar of chocolate can be replaced by honey, figs, bananas and so on. Yes, I know it’s not fully interchangeable at the beginning, so a mom can come to some agreement with herself, and reduce the amount of chocolate and cookies she consumes by replacing the rest with honey and fruits.

Sports and fun

By sports, I mean all the fun things that mom likes to do that involve physical activity: dancing, walking, running, child-lifting, swimming. Anything works, as long as it is done on a daily basis. A fitness club twice a week is not as good as a 30 minute walk every morning. A swimming pool (how many moms have the luxury to go to the swimming pool every day?) once a week is not the same as 15 minutes of intensive stretching and push-ups done with joy (who said joy? OK, then without the push-ups).

The most important thing about losing weight after birth is let it happen in its own pace. It might take a year. Every mom, eventually, wants this weight to go away forever. This is why quick diets will not work here (not to speak about the danger of losing milk).

To lose weight forever means to be in peace with every extra kilogram and let it go when the time comes. The sports, the balanced diet and the targeted goals are something, that should accompany mom all the way through, with no relation to children, work, success or failure. An after-birth era just requires a bit more attention and concentration, but the general formula – goals, diet, sports – works for all times, good and bad.

money saving

3 things I would never buy for my newborn

A newborn means a lot of joy, a bit less (but still a lot) of expenses and even less sleep.

“A lot of people will tell you advice like “sleep when the baby’s sleeping.” It’s good recommendation unless the baby sleeps when you’re driving! “

http://congratulationsto.com/baby_congratulations/funny_new_baby_quotes.php

I have been wondering recently where lays the root of this uncontrollable desire to spend more and more money on our children? Clothes, toys, educational posters, smart devices… are you in the club as well?

So here is the hypothesis:

The act of buying, the act of spending money on another kid-friendly gadget gives us an illusory feeling of satisfaction. Illusory, because we don’t really gain anything in the long run. Does your child really need all the bunch of toys and educational stuff you buy for him or her? How many devices are really being used for good? How many are stored idly somewhere in dark corners of the apartment? How many are you trying to resell on eBay?

Guided by these thoughts, I made a short list of three items, that I, personally, think parents don’t need. If you disagree, you are welcome to state your opinion in comments and I’ll gladly prove why you are wrong confront it.

1. Newborn swing (jumper, bouncer)

Why? Too expensive and short-termed.

Buying something so expensive (around $100 on Amazon without shipping fee) just for a few months use sounds inappropriate to me. Plus, as an experienced mother, I know a child will not really spend a lot of time in this thing. Why? Because all children really want is their parents’ attention. It’s not like you can relax in peace and quiet once your newborn is peacefully playing and entertaining himself in the swing. You will need to spend the same amount of time and energy as you would if you put your child in a regular baby car seat (you know, these semi-car seats intended for home use to carry the baby around) which can be purchased in perfect condition for 5$ on a second-hand market. So why spend $100?

Final conclusion: is not worth the money and is too short-termed for use.

2. Musical potty chairs –

Why? They are more like toys than real potty-training equipment. Some are even annoying.

Musical potty chairs are just another kind of useless toy and is something I can definitely live without saving myself about $30. Kids (well, my kids) got potty trained perfectly well using these regular cheap plastic potties without musical background and cheering sounds. Why do I think this item is unnecessary? Its cost-effectiveness is low if you think about the initial purpose. Plus, if you made a thorough research like I did, and read the cons and the pros for every hyped and branded potty there is on the market, you would find that the cons are not that negligible as they may seem. For example: slippery potty rings (the part where the child sits), music sounds that you CANNOT TURN OFF (unless you take the batteries out or smash the damned thing on the wall), lids, that don’t shut properly, music, that stops working after 4 weeks of use and so on.

Final conclusion: if you want another toy at home, go for it. But remember, that children learn perfectly well with a regular potty (it doesn’t have to be the cheapest plastic thing that slips and moves under your child, but you can find some decent, stable pot that will stay still and keep itself silent).

3. Baby food makers

Why? A simple gadget available in every human’s kitchen can successfully replace any baby food maker.

Ok, I know it may sounds like a revolutionary product that makes mom’s life much easier (ask any grandmother). However, as an experienced mother who raised kids deliberately not buying all these shaking devices, I’ll tell you what makes me step back when I see those fancy electric bottles, cups and blenders:

a. I want my kids to use their teeth and actually chew the food. Steel fork! A primitive great tool to mash and squash whatever is at hand. Here is a great article explaining why I am not the only weird mom one who thinks so

http://tribecanutrition.com/2015/03/textured-food (if the link does not work please let me know in comments).

b. I don’t want to waste time washing the electric device (yes, I know most are super easily cleaned. And still, to rinse a fork requires less brain activity and less movements).

“If you want to make good use of your time, you;ve got to know what;s most important and then give it all you’’ve got.” Lee Iacocca

http://sourcesofinsight.com/time-management-quotes/

I am sure every mom has her list of must-haves and things-she-will-never-buy.

The three items listed here –are my personal choice based on experience of raising several kids. I believe, that it goes far beyond the child’s list and that we don’t really need most of the things we spend money on (another USB? Another pair of shoes? Another book? Another set of clothes?)

It’s not a sin to buy these useless things that make you happy as long as you are conscious of what you are doing, knowing that it’s for the sake of shopping therapy only. As a mother and a woman I am guilty of that as well –buying stuff I don’t need just because I like to take my wallet out, open it, pay and then put it back into my bag. The only thing I am really trying forced to do is to minimize the financial damage and arise consciousness.

mom style

Moms and style: can mom wear anything she wants?

Hear a joke: a mommy, who usually wears jeans, wears a skirt for the first time in a long time. Her 5-year-old son is looking at her in astonishment and says: “What? So you are a girl, mom?”

Is it too much?

As a mom, I feel high responsibility for the way I look, walk, talk etc., because there are two pairs of curious eyes watching me. I would like to be a role model for my daughter, and, therefore, I try to look gentle, feminine and stylish. On the other hand, when I need to make circles in the air taking the kids from school to music, from kindergarten to physiotherapy, then grab an ice-cream on the way, then make some quick grocery shopping I end up looking like… a stylish horse.

When you are a young and attractive girl, looking cool is not a big thing. You are irresistible and reckless, your schedule is concentrated around yourself and, therefore, wearing skirts, heels and leather jackets is more than natural.

But when you are 30+, with kids, debts and a flood of useless thoughts, finding your style is a huge challenge. In your head, you are a princess, but in reality you are the princess’s horse.

The princess horse

From my own experience, there are two main things that bring you closer to the princess and a bit farther from the horse.

  • Lose weight unless you belong to the rare category of people who are completely content with that number. Mothers with lower weight usually look younger from far away, even when wearing inexpensive clothes. If you like the way you look, and don’t want to lose a pound, look at advice number 2:
  • Skirts, dresses and heels. Yes, they are not as comfortable as your favorite jeans, and you don’t have to wear 10 cm heels and mini skirt when picking up your child from the kindergarten (the teachers will not necessarily appreciate it). Yet keep a few comfy dresses (that make YOU look very good) and mid-high heel elegant shoes for walks in the park with the kids (even if there is playground with sand. What is the worst thing that can happen? Some sand is good for your shoes).

Of course these advice won’t work if you don’t care that much how you look, if you adore yourself the way you are and don’t want to change a thing. But most of us, mothers-women, do look for a change, especially when our kids reach the age when they express their thoughts about the way things and people around them look like. For me, the biggest motivation for losing weight and keeping myself in shape is my daughter, who still thinks I am not in shape. At least, there is a mini-purpose in life.